Howdy readers! Today I thought I would talk about a something, that I’m still learning about, but I’m very much fascinated by this subject, which is as you can tell from the title is Self-Awareness or being self-aware. I learnt about this from term from a guy named Gary Vaynerchuk, if you don’t know who this man is, he is a self-made man who out of college grew his family wine business from $3 to $60 million in just five years, and now he is one of the world’s leading marketing experts and running the digital agency VaynerMedia, blah de blah blah.
When he when talks about this, he often talks about us being able to identify our goals + strengths and go all in on your strengths and accepting your shorting comings. The whole notion of understanding what works for you, may not work for others, is very powerful and I think can help steer you in your direction in life. Self-awareness can be applied from building relationships to your helping you in your career or just being more aware of your everyday emotions.
Whilst researching for my post, it turns out that the first trace of this goes back to 1972 where Psychologists Shelley Duval and Robert Wicklund’s developed the theory of self-awareness.
“when we focus our attention on ourselves, we evaluate and compare our current behaviour to our internal standards and values. We become self-conscious as objective evaluators of ourselves.”
Being able to have this ability to analyse yourself is pretty tough to do! And some may say cannot always be easily taught. Here are some tips that have helped me in my journey to self-awareness:
Give yourself some space
What I mean by this, is give yourself some time to check out from your day to day and just focus on nothing else but yourself. Whether this is reading, writing or meditating, just anything to get your mobile phone out of your hand for 5 minutes will do the trick, lol. I actually use this really handy app called Headspace for this (which admittedly is on my phone, but I ignore all notification when using this!) and tend to do this at the beginning of the day. It’s a really great way to help you become more focused, and have less stress and worried in your life. It really helps with my anxiety too!
Take a personality test
Who doesn’t love a test? I know I do! I know on my old website, I spoke about this awesome one called 16.personalities, but I feel it still deserve credit because of how insightful it is. Taking these kinds of tests or a psychometric test can really helpful in breaking down some home truths about your personality that you may not want to admit to yourself or that you were not aware of before. Its results are in-depth rather than generic personality test which says things like, “you’re shy”, or “you’re outgoing”, so you actually get some substance when it comes to various aspects of your personality.
Ask for feedback
Whether this is with your friends, family or with work colleagues, it is really helpful to get different perspectives from various people in your life. Now this one is quite scary, as we could be nervous about how others feel about ourselves but if you are able to collect feedback from as many people as possible, even if it’s dishonest and/or biased, you will be able to identify them and find genuine and balanced feedback as you learn more and more about yourself.
If you like a good TED Talk then I highly recommending checking out this video here:
I hope this was post was helpful or at the least insightful on your own journey to self-awareness and feel free to share what results you got in your 16.personalities in the comments below.
I got INFJ-T!