I would like to think I’m somewhat settled in my new surroundings and I wanted to share with you 4 things I’ve learnt since moving to a new city.
Change is scary and that’s ok.
I think the first month was filled with excitement along with anxiety and did I make the right decision to drop my life in England for Canada? But after being forced to experience change I can safely say that I’ve come out the other side and I’m ok. Sure at first I found it hard to adjust, as our brains are wired to do the same thing over and over again so breaking that pattern can really throw the spammers out of the work – especially as everything is brand new – but it really pushed me out of my comfort zone.
As a result of that, it really helped me find out more about me – I know, mega corny – but I got to understand what I can and cannot handle. It helped/s me grow as a person. Appreciate the life I had back at home. Made me a lot more optimistic about life, in the sense of you can really do anything you set your mind too.
Whilst it was uncomfortable, I highly recommend moving to a new city.
Your time management improves…ish
I’ve gone from GMT to PST so I’m 7/8 hours behind the UK, so that can make trying to keep in touch with friends and family awkward – but it’s very much doable. So if I want to call people, I can either do so on my lunch break during the week or early mornings on the weekends. Both parties (including myself) have to appreciate that everyone does have their own lives and can’t always hop on a call at a moments notice. But then when you do get to catch up, it’s honestly so lovely to catch up – just super sad when the call has to end! Thank god for skype, how did anyone one do this prior to technology back in the day?
There will be days where I don’t wake up in time and agreed to meet up on a call at 3pm, but luckily I’m surrounded by very forgiving people.
Luckily social media is my back up if I wanna see what is happening back at home and vice versa. It does help in keeping in touch with what others are doing especially if our schedules conflict.
Making new friends is hard
I’m nearly in my 30’s and giving that I have social anxiety, this doesn’t make this task the easiest! At this age you already have a lot of your core friendship groups, so looking for other new friends is something I’ve had to re-familarise ourselves with. Especially as it’s normally Danny & I going out together, something it’s hard for us to be like “hey, wanna be friends,” without accidentally looking like a couple of swingers.
I’ve yet to join a club (mainly as I can’t make up my mind or nothing really tickles my fancy) as that seems like the easiest & most logical way to meet people, so perhaps if and when I decided maybe I can make a friend or two.
If I’m honest, it’s hard work (not saying that I mind it) trying to make sure I keep in contact with my UK friends and family. And as a good friend told me the other day, it’s not the end of the world as I’m already surrounded by important people. So you too should not feel bad for not setting up a whole other friendship group.
However saying this…going to a sports bar is a sure way to make friends – as we did, even thought they were only visiting here on holiday!
I’ve learnt how to live with very little
Before the move, I was a tiny bit of a hoarder. I remember the ordeal or downsizing our one-bed apartment (yes I say apartment and not flat now :P) was a nightmare. Took over 3 months to do! But coming to Canada with one medium suitcase, one cabin suitcase and a backpack meant I came over with the barely anything. When we first moved into our apartment, I was on a work retreat so Danny had to start building the foundation for our place. We first had an air bed. With towels, bedding and toilet roll. Then got a chair. Internet. Then eventually we finally got all the essentials for our kitchen so we didn’t need to take out every night (although it was glorious) and then we got a proper bed, sofa and a TV – it took a month and a bit to finally get all the pieces of things we need to live comfortably.
Even still when I look around the apartment, we ‘could have’ more things, but we don’t particularly need anything else. Take for example my tv stand, it currently sits on the cardboard box it came in. Could I buy a one? Probably? Do I need one? Well until the box breaks then I can look into other alternatives, but until then … if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.
Now when I purchase things, I really think about Do I have one of these already? Is this essential? Which is great for my bank balance as I can invest in other things, like foodora 😏
So those are some of the things that I’ve learnt since moving to a new city. If you’ve done the same in the past, tell me what things did you learn since moving to somewhere completely new? Let me know in the comments below 🙂